Due to a request, I will share my thoughts on how to overcome jealousy even though I don’t have personal experience in this area. Sometimes I feel jealous but it normally fades quickly.
Before we get into the topic, let me define first what jealousy is. Not to be confused with envy, jealousy is an emotion resulting from the belief that another person’s success or happiness somehow affects your own. This secondary emotion is merely trying to please our ego, by hiding our inabilities and insecurities.
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When it comes to relationships, jealousy is so irresistible that people fail to acknowledge its negative effects. It causes problems in communication and can eventually destroy a relationship. In my opinion, when we are in a state of jealousy, we are looking through the lens of scarcity. In the state of jealousy, we can be unreasonable and selfish. But when we look through the lens of abundance, we can detach ourselves from that negative emotion.
Now that you know the meaning behind the word jealousy, here are the tips that can help you overcome jealousy and develop a positive human connection.
Acknowledge the Feeling. Don’t pretend or deny the feeling. The solution starts with understanding the problem. So, acknowledge what you are feeling right now. It is the only way you can understand the situation and start eliminating that destructive emotion. Jealousy is a part of your ego, so in order for you to do this you need to detach yourself from it and look at the situation from another’s perspective.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Comparing yourself to others is an act of pride and ego. Some says that this is not all bad. However, this kind of practice only results in loss of self-confidence and unhappiness. Turning other people’s weaknesses into our strengths can only keep us from improving ourselves. It can only lead us to believe that we are superior among others while in reality we can’t always be on top of everything.
Be grateful for who you are and what you have and what they have. Use your own skills and abilities to excel in the field you’re interested in. Instead of feeling jealous because someone else has gotten those opportunities that you wanted, be happy for them. Develop positive attitude and mentality. You can be whatever you want to be only if you believe. The power of gratitude is sufficient to overcome jealousy.
5 Comments:
Jealousy is such a damaging emotion. It can lead to constant bickering and just seems to snowball down an unstoppable hill.
Very well said!
Jealousy is something that can be developed easily. Thanks for such great information! I do happen to come across a site regarding wealth maximisation and shareholder wealth maximization. It provides useful tips!
if i had bouts of jealousy and it has somehow destroyed a relationship, what can i do to get the relationship back? thanks
Jealousy has always been one of the reasons of break-ups. There are several reasons why we get jealous: selfishness, betrayal of trust, or insecurities. Whichever caused the relationship to break is not merely for jealousy alone.
In fixing something broken, we have to look for the root cause of the problem. Was the jealousy because of selfishness? Was the relationship because of third-party and your trust was broken several times? Or was the jealousy because of insecurity?
If we can somehow pinpoint which caused the jealousy, we would be able to fix the relationship. We need to talk to our partners and make them realize what happened.
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