Emotional abuse is a form of abuse intended to manipulate or suppress another person through the use of fear, humiliation, bullying, guilt, etc. Emotional abuse is like a way of manipulation for it steadily eats away at the victim’s self-esteem.
Emotionally abused victims can become so convinced by the abuser that they are nothing. Whether the abuse is done by persistent criticizing or giving advice to another person as a concern, the results are similar.
Emotional abusers – WHO ARE THEY?
• They tend to make unreasonable demands for attention.
• They love drama because they it creates excitement.
• They reject a person’s emotional needs by causing feelings of hurt, fear or anxiety.
• They use the “silent treatment tactic” to punish those who hurt them.
• They disallow and overrule any perceptions or feelings that are different from their own.
• They usually throw blame to others for their own actions or words.
• They give erratic responses. For example, they like something you do one day and hates it the next.
Victims of abuse often experience feelings of worthlessness, hurt, guilt, and anger. Ironically, abusers are often caught in such abusive situations. In fact, abusing another is their way of dealing with their own feelings of worthlessness, hurt, guilt, and anger. Therefore, abusers may be attracted to those who identify themselves as weak or who don’t value their own feelings or perceptions. In this way, the abuser establishes emotional security and authority.
Emotional abusers are everywhere. They can be a family member, teacher, boss, co-worker, your partner or even yourself. If we endure ill treatment from others, or treat others in abusive ways, it is likely that we also treat ourselves in the same way. If you are the abuser or victim of emotional abuse, you may want to reflect on how you treat yourself. How often did you engage yourself in negative self-talk? Do you think you’re weak, helpless or useless? When you love and value yourself, you will be able to create a positive force that can protect you and even counterbalance the negativity of abusive people.
You can’t change the way others treat you. You can never change them. As Wayne Dyer said, “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.”
Emotionally abused victims can become so convinced by the abuser that they are nothing. Whether the abuse is done by persistent criticizing or giving advice to another person as a concern, the results are similar.
Emotional abusers – WHO ARE THEY?
• They tend to make unreasonable demands for attention.
• They love drama because they it creates excitement.
• They reject a person’s emotional needs by causing feelings of hurt, fear or anxiety.
• They use the “silent treatment tactic” to punish those who hurt them.
• They disallow and overrule any perceptions or feelings that are different from their own.
• They usually throw blame to others for their own actions or words.
• They give erratic responses. For example, they like something you do one day and hates it the next.
Victims of abuse often experience feelings of worthlessness, hurt, guilt, and anger. Ironically, abusers are often caught in such abusive situations. In fact, abusing another is their way of dealing with their own feelings of worthlessness, hurt, guilt, and anger. Therefore, abusers may be attracted to those who identify themselves as weak or who don’t value their own feelings or perceptions. In this way, the abuser establishes emotional security and authority.
Emotional abusers are everywhere. They can be a family member, teacher, boss, co-worker, your partner or even yourself. If we endure ill treatment from others, or treat others in abusive ways, it is likely that we also treat ourselves in the same way. If you are the abuser or victim of emotional abuse, you may want to reflect on how you treat yourself. How often did you engage yourself in negative self-talk? Do you think you’re weak, helpless or useless? When you love and value yourself, you will be able to create a positive force that can protect you and even counterbalance the negativity of abusive people.
You can’t change the way others treat you. You can never change them. As Wayne Dyer said, “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.”
